One of the ways I love working with clients is through Parts work. Parts Therapy involves acknowledging that each of us is made up of lots of different internal aspects of ourselves, each doing the best they can for us based on their own internal view of the world.
And of course when we’re open to the possibility that internally we’re made up of multiple aspects of ourselves, we’ve already taken the first step in understanding how we might sometimes feel conflicted. The next step is harnessing the differing capabilities and capacities of these parts to find a resolution to our internal disagreements.
Anyone that has ever brought a team successfully together, I mean really together, working as one on a common goal will have a sense of what just what can be achieved when the whole team is pulling in the same direction. Each team member acknowledging the different team members’ strengths and differing viewpoints. Each member supporting the others. The sum of the parts really is greater than the whole.
Equally most of us know how it feels when we’re in a team with little harmony. Dis-harmony rules, different members’ agendas both obvious and not so obvious abound. It can be exhausting both running the team and being a member of it. Everyone on the team may have good intentions, but the team hasn’t yet agreed on a strategy that works for them all. They need some mediation, some guidance.
The same thing
Just like the team that could do with some guidance, sometimes different parts of ourselves are in conflict – wanting different things. They actually all want to project “you” to success, They’re just trying to do it in different ways. Sometimes we can be very aware of these parts, we might even say something like “Part of me wants to….”, which might imply another part doesn’t, perhaps?
Parts Therapy involves getting to know these parts better, uncover their common purpose and agree an agenda that suits them both. I’m merely a facilitator in that process. Your parts have everything they need to succeed, it’s a case of allowing each of them to be heard and contribute.