You may have heard of the idea there are different stages of grief. One model that helps us understand our loss is the Kubler-Ross model which originally identified 5 stages, since updated to 7 stages. In some ways I don't like the idea of a model for grief, as how we come to terms with a loss is different for everyone, but they can help us understand what we're going through and also realise where we might be getting stuck and need some help.
The Kubler-Ross stages are: Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Guilt, Depression/Sorrow, Acceptance
It’s important to know these stages don’t necessarily come one after the after, in a linear fashion, and we can find ourselves cycling back and forth. Sometimes if we have known in advance we will lose someone or something we may have experienced some of the stages ahead of the actual loss. I find this model useful in understanding how we’re feeling as we progress through our grief.
This is just one of the models we can use to help us understand what we’re going through. Models like this one can also to help us realise when perhaps we’ve got stuck in one of the stages and may benefit from some help to allow us to move forward a little.